When I woke up last Sunday, while still half asleep, I was yawning and stretching, and suddenly something in my back snapped. I woke up startled and with a lot of pain in my back. First I was scared to even move, but then I slowly started to get up and did some stretching and foam rolling to try to relax those cramped up muscles. It wasn’t as painful anymore, but I still felt it all through the day, so in the evening I decided to book a massage and was lucky enough to get an appointment for the next morning.
When I woke up, I immediately felt the pain again, and I started feeling sorry for myself, thinking, “Why? Why is this happening to me?” A bit dramatic, but whatever. Then something amazing happened. A shift in perception. Aka a miracle. Here’s what I love about practicing A Course in Miracles. The more you practice it, the more all those little nuggets of wisdom become ingrained in your psyche. So your ego might be putting out a pathetic thought like, “Why is this happening to me?”, because the ego speaks first and loudest, but then your higher self answers with one of those great lines from the Course. In my case, I was reminded of the fact that I am only here to be truly helpful. There’s a beautiful prayer in A Course in Miracles that I repeat every morning. Here it is:
I am only here to be truly helpful.
I am here to represent him who sent me.
I do not have to worry about what to say or what to do, because he who sent me will direct me.
I am content to be wherever he wishes, knowing he goes there with me.
I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.
–A Course in Miracles
So why was this so meaningful for me in that moment? Because I knew that I was long overdue for a massage long before I hurt my back. I knew since February, and this happened in August. I knew that I should get a massage. I thought about it almost every day. But I ignored it, because I find it really hard to invest in myself in that way. I could have avoided all that pain had I listened to my intuition, but I didn’t. I waited until I got hurt. And that’s what a lot of people do. It’s not just about massages, it’s about self care. For example, while I struggle with treating myself to massages, I have no problem investing in high quality food. I buy healthy, whole food ingredients, I try to buy mostly organic, and I make the time to cook for myself. That’s something I learned a while ago. I no longer think about it. Being a health coach, I know the cost of cheaping out on your nutrition. And I’m not willing to pay that price. I invest in myself by being discerning with the things I’m eating and drinking, and I’m willing to pay more money for those foods, because I know that by doing that I end up saving money by having fewer sick days, having to take less medicine, being more productive and efficient at work, and of course the invaluable wealth that is health. I know that. And so I invest in high quality food. No problem.
But when it comes to things like massages or other forms of physical therapy, I have a hard time investing in myself in that way. I haven’t learned that yet. But what struck me that morning when I was suddenly reminded of the fact that I am only here to be truly helpful is that, when I’m not feeling 100%, I can’t be truly helpful. When I can’t move properly, when I’m in pain, when I’m tired, when I’m sick, my capability to be truly helpful goes down to zero real quick. And I really, fully believe in that line. I am only here to be truly helpful. So if that is my purpose, it is my job and my responsibility to make sure I am as healthy, happy and vibrant as possible, so I can be of the highest service.
So in that moment I realized: why is this happening to me – because I didn’t listen to my intuition! AND I’m not only doing myself a disservice by failing to take care of myself, I’m also doing everyone else a disservice because when I’m not 100%, I can’t give 100%, and when I can’t give 100%, I’m not truly helpful. And that’s my highest purpose. The ONLY thing I’m here for. I am only here to be truly helpful.
I have to realize that if I want to be truly helpful, if I want to fulfill my purpose, I have to take excellent care of myself. I have to realize that I am worthy and deserving of excellent self care because number 1, I’m a child of God – just as worthy and deserving of perfect happiness and health as everyone else – and number 2, it’s not just about me! It’s about my ability to be a bright light in this world. The healthier and happier I am, the brighter I shine and the more helpful I can be.
That’s one of the greatest lessons we can learn. That it’s not just about us. When someone’s rude or mean we can realize that it has probably nothing to do with us, but everything to do with that person’s fears and the battles they’re currently facing. So there’s no need to get defensive or angry. Rather we can remind ourselves that we are only here to be truly helpful, and proceed from there.
But this is what I want to get at. Self care is important. Not just because it makes you feel better, but because it makes you more helpful! As I said, it is your job and your responsibility to take excellent care of yourself, not just for your sake, but so you can be a beacon of light and make this world a better place. It’s not just about you. It’s about the fact that you are only here to be truly helpful. And you are the most helpful when you are healthy, happy and full of life.
So please, learn from my mistakes, and from your own. Invest in yourself. Take excellent care of yourself, so you can shine brightly and be truly helpful.
I bless the world because I bless myself.
–A Course in Miracles
Now I’d love to hear from you . . .
Where do you struggle to invest in yourself?
And where does your self-care shine?
Please leave me a comment below and let’s chat.
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