Life after death is something I’m often asked about by my coaching clients. It’s one of life’s big questions, isn’t it? So I’d love to share my insights with you and answer the most common questions I receive about this topic. Now of course it’s up to the individual what they want to believe about life here on earth, about life after death, life before birth, heaven, paradise, nirvana. It’s not my job to try and convince anyone of what I believe. I’m just sharing what I know to be true, and you are free to take what you like and leave the rest. I know it can be scary when you become aware of your mortality, but as A Course in Miracles says, there is no death. Death is part of the insanity of this world. I told you here that God did not create this world because how could you reconcile an all-loving God with the concept of aging, sickness and death? How could it be love’s will for you to be so vulnerable, and that even in the best case scenario you will grow old and die? It doesn’t make any sense. Wouldn’t love want you to be happy, healthy and vibrant all the time? Of course it would – and it does! This physical journey is just an experience. It isn’t LIFE. You know what I mean? It’s part of life, but it isn’t all there is to life.
WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HEAVEN AND EARTH?
A Course in Miracles says the main differences between heaven and earth are that on earth everything is always changing, whereas in heaven everything is constant. On earth there are opposites like good and bad, up and down, whereas in heaven there is only love. On earth there is impermanence, mortality, evanescence, whereas in heaven everything always is as it always has been and always will be. Earth is a place of separation, whereas heaven is a state of complete oneness.
As we all know, life here on earth is impermanent, but that isn’t all there is to life. As we said before, it’s not even real. It’s more like a dream, an illusion, a hallucination. Even Albert Einstein said that time and space are illusions of consciousness. Again, you are free to believe whatever you want to believe. I’m just telling you, anything else simply doesn’t make sense. To me at least, it doesn’t make sense that there would be an all-loving God AND death/sickness/mortality/suffering. You can’t combine them. It’s gotta be either one or the other. And I KNOW that love is real. How? Because we all know! It’s the realest thing you’ll ever know. No one could convince me that love isn’t real, because I’ve experienced love all my life. Before I knew anything else, I knew love. When you’re a baby you don’t know anything yet – but you know love.
And it’s one of those things – no one can see it, measure it, touch it, smell it – but we all know it’s true. So that’s how we know for a fact that there’s more to life than just the visible and measurable.
WHY DO I FEEL LIKE AN ALIEN HERE?
And at least the way I see it, this earthly life is an experience, but it’s not my LIFE. If this were all there was to life, then yes, that WOULD be depressing. But it’s not. One of my favorite lessons from A Course in Miracles, probably the one I resonate with the most, starts with the words,
This world you seem to live in is not home to you.
And somewhere in your mind you know that this is true.
I do know that it’s true. You know how you sometimes feel like an alien here? You know how you sometimes feel like you don’t fit here, you don’t belong here, and you feel so different? Well A Course in Miracles tells us that the reason we feel like an alien here, is because we ARE! This is not our home.
A memory of home keeps haunting you, as if there were a place that called you to return, although you do not recognize the voice, nor what it is the voice reminds you of. Yet still you feel an alien here, from somewhere all unknown. Nothing so definite that you could say with certainty you are an exile here. Just a persistent feeling, sometimes not more than a tiny throb, at other times hardly remembered, actively dismissed, but surely to return to mind again.
Does that sound familiar?
No one but knows whereof we speak. Yet some try to put by their suffering in games they play to occupy their time, and keep their sadness from them. Others will deny that they are sad, and do not recognize their tears at all. Still others will maintain that what we speak of is illusion, not to be considered more than but a dream. Yet who, in simple honesty, without defensiveness and self-deception, would deny he understands the words we speak?
WHY DOES ANYTHING EVEN MATTER IF THIS WORLD ISN’T REAL AND WE’RE ALL GONNA DIE ANYWAY?
Because – while you’re here, you’re here. And why wouldn’t you have the best time possible here? Would you rather spend 80 years on a couch withering away? As I said here, even though God didn’t want you to be here, He came here with you. And that’s why even though this world is clearly imperfect, there’s still a lot of beauty and joy and love to be found here. That’s God. So even though life here on earth can never be perfect, it can be really good. And you don’t have to worry about death because, again, this is just part of your journey. Death is not the end. Life continues because life is constant. You’ll simply wake back up in heaven – your true home. And there everything is perfect. As it says in that last line from the serenity prayer,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
It’s all good. This world is neither perfect nor permanent, but it’s good. It’s all good. God loves you and He created a beautiful, perfect, permanent, loving home for you and everyone – heaven – where we’ll all be together in perfect oneness perfect harmony, and perfect bliss. God did not leave you here to wither and die. He’s actually here to wake you up from this nightmare of a world, so you can realize that it was just a dream, and all is well. You’re at home, in God.
You know when you wake up from a nightmare and within seconds everything that seemed so real in the dream simply vanishes and loses all meaning and sense? And you realize that you’ve been safe at home all along? That’s probably what it will be like when you return home to heaven. It’s all good. It’s just a dream. You’re actually safe at home in God.
Nothing at all has happened but that you have put yourself to sleep, and dreamed a dream in which you were an alien to yourself, and but a part of someone else’s dream. The miracle does not awaken you, but merely shows you who the dreamer is. It teaches you there is a choice of dreams while you are still asleep, depending on the purpose of your dreaming. Do you wish for dreams of healing, or for dreams of death? A dream is like a memory in that it pictures what you wanted shown to you.
In dreams of murder and attack are you the victim in a dying body slain. But in forgiving dreams is no one asked to be the victim and the sufferer. These are the happy dreams the miracle exchanges for your own. It does not ask you make another; only that you see you made the one you would exchange for this.
–A Course in Miracles
Yes, it can be depressing to become aware of the impermanence of everything here on earth. But while everything is temporary here on earth, earth isn’t ultimate reality. It’s just a dream. In truth, everything is permanent, everything is safe, everything is love, peace, and harmony.
And so the best way to deal with life is not to worry or obsess about its impermanence, but to enjoy everything and everyone while you’re here. Knowing that your physical self is impermanent shouldn’t stop you from living your life full out, working for your goals, having relationships and enjoying them while you’re here. With anything in life, you can be sad about the fact that nothing is permanent, or you can enjoy your life and give it your all while it lasts. And that’s the way to not only live a happy life yourself, but to also make this world a better place and enrich the lives of others.
The ego can find a depressing interpretation for anything. But the ego is not who you should listen to if you want to be happy and a good person. God created the Holy Spirit (intuition, inner guide) to always offer a positive and productive interpretation to you. And following THAT will make life so much better, not just for yourself, but for everyone. And you can differentiate ego and spirit because the voice of your ego is always frantic/anxious/worried/pessimistic while the voice of your inner guide is always calm/peaceful/positive/optimistic. That’s how you know who’s talking. And then you can choose who you want to listen to.
The fact that life here on earth is temporary is something we simply have to accept because there’s nothing we can do about it. That’s just the way it is. But that doesn’t mean that we can’t enjoy the ride. Of course it will make you sad sometimes, but rather than obsessing about something you cannot change, and in so doing spoiling the happy times you DO have here, you should just make the best of life while you’re here. And you’re not good company for anyone if you’re constantly sad, depressed, and obsessing about death, right?
AM I BEING STUPID/DELUSIONAL BELIEVING IN LIFE AFTER DEATH?
Your ego would tell you that it’s futile to believe in life after death because there isn’t any hard evidence for it. But there isn’t any hard evidence of death being the end either! Of course your ego forgot to mention that. And people who’ve had a near death experience tell us that life after death is real.
You are totally free to believe whatever you want to believe. And if believing in life after death is the thought process you need in order to enjoy your life and be at peace, then you should go for it. There is no right or wrong. As I said, no one has any proof. Either way, it’s a belief. The ego would like you to think that believing in life after death is wishful thinking whereas believing that death is the end is a fact. But the truth is, it’s not a fact! There’s no proof either way. So even if you believe in death as the end – you’re still a believer! You’re just a believer in something way more sad and depressing. So the question is, what kind of believer do you want to be? A believer in something sad and depressing, or a believer in something that makes your life here on earth better and happier and more meaningful? It’s up to you what you want to put your faith in. But it’s faith either way. There is no such thing as a faithless person. Faith is an spect of consciousness. It’s again like that Bob Dylan song:
It may be the devil
Or it may be the Lord
But you’re gonna have to serve somebody
Or the way I put it, no matter what, you’re a believer. Either you believe in life after death, or you believe that death is the end. It’s a belief either way. If someone wants to believe in death as the end, fine. But it’s still just a belief. There’s no proof they’re right. And if you want to believe in life after death, if you’d be so much happier believing in life after death, then you should. Remember, we’re all believers. We can believe in different things, but at the end of the day, we’re all believers. So just choose the one that makes your life better and happier. Because anything else is just a waste of your time.
A Course in Miracles says, would you rather be right, or happy? And this is one of those topics where no one will ever know for a fact who’s right and who isn’t. So I’d rather be happy, wouldn’t you?
Death denies life. But if there is reality in life, death is denied. No compromise in this is possible. There is either a god of fear or One of Love. The world attempts a thousand compromises, and will attempt a thousand more. Not one can be acceptable to God’s teachers, because not one could be acceptable to God.
–A Course in Miracles
WHAT ABOUT REINCARNATION?
I mentioned the book The Disappearance Of The Universe a couple of times over the last month, so I quickly want to address the topic of reincarnation because that book does talk about it. I never passionately agreed with NOR denied reincarnation as I don’t feel like it matters. Life is happening NOW. So all that matters is what I’m doing with my life NOW.
IF reincarnation is real, it is only real on the level of this earthly life. In the larger sense, again, we never left heaven. So either way, it is just part of this mortal hallucination and doesn’t affect your current life or how you should deal with your life in any way.
In the ultimate sense, reincarnation is impossible. There is no past or future, and the idea of birth into a body has no meaning either once or many times. Reincarnation cannot, then, be true in any real sense. Our only question should be, “Is the concept helpful?” And that depends, of course, on what it is used for. If it is used to strengthen the recognition of the eternal nature of life, it is helpful indeed. Is any other question about it really useful in lighting up the way? Like many other beliefs, it can be bitterly misused. At least, such misuse offers preoccupation and perhaps pride in the past. At worst, it induces inertia in the present. In between, many kinds of folly are possible.
Reincarnation would not, under any circumstances, be the problem to be dealt with now. If it were responsible for some of the difficulties the individual faces now, his task would still be only to escape from them now. If he is laying the groundwork for a future life, he can still work out his salvation only now. To some, there may be comfort in the concept, and if it heartens them its value is self-evident. It is certain, however, that the way to salvation can be found by those who believe in reincarnation and by those who do not. The idea cannot, therefore, be regarded as essential to the curriculum.
–A Course in Miracles
I think that’s pretty clear.
WILL I SEE MY LOVED ONES AGAIN?
Will we “see them again” in heaven? Here’s what I believe. I believe that this physical world is just a bad dream, and in truth we’re safe at home in the mind of God. I believe we’ve always been there, we’re there now, and we’ll be there forever. So the phrase “life after death” doesn’t even cut it for me. As I said before, heaven is a place of perfect oneness. So while I do believe that in heaven we’ll be “reunited” so to speak with our loved ones, I don’t believe that heaven is a place of separate beings. So the way I see it, we’re not just hanging out with our loved ones – we are ONE with our loved ones, with God, with everyone. Separation is an aspect of this physical world. And I know it’s hard to grasp the concept of complete oneness because while we’re here, day in and day out, we’re faced with separation and we perceive ourselves as separate from each other. So yeah, I don’t just believe that we’ll be with our loved ones, but that we’ll be one with our loved ones. I believe we are one with them already. As I said, always have been and always will be. But heaven, as A Course in Miracles says, is an AWARENESS of our oneness. So even though we’re already one with them now, we can’t see it. In heaven we will. That’s what I believe. You can phrase it however you want to. Either way, we’ll be united with each other.
Heaven is not a place nor a condition. It is merely an awareness of perfect Oneness, and the knowledge that there is nothing else; nothing outside this Oneness, and nothing else within.
–A Course in Miracles
The main message I want to convey to you here is, don’t worry. Don’t worry about what happens after you die. Don’t spend your life worrying about death. Just make the best of it while you’re here! Be a good person, live your best life. That’s all that matters. And feel free to choose the belief about life after death that brings you the most peace and comfort. After all, we’re all believers!
Heaven is here. There is nowhere else. Heaven is now. There is no other time.
–A Course in Miracles
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